More Coaching Wisdom

Have been taking some time off for Spring Break...but found this great reminder in my email today (from a coach of course):

“Ability is what you are capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it. ”

Louis "Lou" Holtz (born 1937);

American football coach

The Coach

My colleagues and I are searching for a new faculty member in our Business Department.

After reviewing resumes, conducting interviews and witnessing teaching demonstrations of prospective candidates,  my team and I come back to asking ourselves a basic question:  "what really is a great teacher?"

I realize hundreds of titles have been written on this subject.

But based on the great teachers I have witnessed both as a student, and as an instructor, I believe a truly great teacher resembles a great COACH.

That's right--a COACH.

I heard an instructor at a four-year school credit his students' success to the fact that he "

"...gets them (his students) to do the things they don't want to do--but will thank him later on for making them do."

Sounds like a coach.

A coach does more than just explain the rules of a game .  A good coach, a GREAT coach, a coach that consistently wins games does the following:

1.  establishes the direction and strategy of the game
2.  inspires his players to do their best--especially when those players don't believe they can
3.  has the guts to be brutally honest--especially with players that don't WANT to do their best
4.  enforces the rules of the game--in other words, no cheating, no shortcuts--ever.

Joe Newton, Joe Vigil, Tony Dungy, Vince Lombardi.

Different coaches.

Different sports.

But the SAME APPROACH to winning. 

An approach that applies to any leadership position.

The classroom.

The boardroom.

And in raising kids.

Perhaps, instead of another leadership book written by another leadership guru, or another manual discussing the latest teaching theories to reach Generation X or Y....

Or another parenting book on raising an honor student...

Perhaps we aspiring executives, teachers, and parents should peruse the SPORTS section of the library.

And read about the great coaches.

The coaches that made a difference.

To their game.

And to their players.

So we can learn to be "coaches" that make a difference.

To our games.

And our players--at work, at school, and at home.


AMJ

Words Matter

As children, we were taught: "sticks and stones may break our bones, but words can never hurt us."

I believe this is untrue.

Because broken bones heal quickly.

But the effects of words do not.

Because words matter.

The words we say can be like planting the seed of a tree.

The seed takes root.

And the roots grow deep.

Setting the direction of the tree.

Just like words can set our direction and the direction of people we care about.

Because words matter.

I am reminded of Emerson's words when he opined: "we become what we think about all day long."

What words do YOU think about all day long?

What words are you "planting" in yourself that impact your performance on the track, at work, and at home?

What words are you "planting" in others that impact THEIR performance on the track, at work, and at home?

Because words, just like roots of a tree, often set a person's direction.

Yours and mine.

For good...or not.

Because words matter.

AMJ

Gratitude

Thanksgiving is the best holiday of the year.

I love this holiday because for one time every year, it forces us to do something we seldom pause to do...

Be grateful.

And gratitude, like most virtues, doesn't come easy.

It requires practice.

But there is an awesome side-effect to practicing gratitude:

Grateful people are happy people. 

Always.

Because I have yet to meet a happy complainer.

I think this is because true gratitude transcends current circumstances--which enables HAPPINESS to transcend circumstances.

The truly grateful person is grateful that their kids are healthy and love them even though they just lost their job.

The truly grateful person is grateful they are running the upcoming race even with a painful knee injury--because they know many athletes are competing from a wheelchair.

The truly grateful person still finds beauty in the amazing alpenglow sunrise despite the grim prognosis from the doctor.

I think grateful people have figured out what really matters.

And what doesn't.

What has lasting value.

And what doesn't.

I think distance training helps us figure this out.

To show us that gratitude, like happiness, is not a place.

But a choice.

And that it's up to us.

AMJ

You Gotta Earn It

The Portland Marathon is one of my favorite races.

It's not just the flat terrain, 50-degree weather, and sea-level advantage that I like about the race.

It's the philosophy of the race organizers that I like.

The runner gets the "finisher" shirt only AFTER she finishes the race.

Not BEFORE.

While most city marathons hand out the "finisher" shirt with the athlete's race bib the day before the event out of convenience and, I suspect, to make everyone feel good whether they finish the race or not, the Portland Marathon (which does NOT have a half-marathon option by the way) is pure "old school."

You get the "finisher" shirt when you...well....FINISH the marathon.

Only after the runner's bib has been tagged by the officials at the finish line does the athlete receive the "finisher" shirt.

No finish.

No shirt.

This may sound petty.

But it sends a message.

A message that says...

You gotta earn it.

Towards the end of each semester in my Principles of Accounting I class, I have to remind my students that I don't GIVE grades to students.

They have to EARN their grades.

It's not that I am in the "winning is everything" camp.

But I have been a teacher and parent long enough to know something about human nature.  A nature that says that things that are not earned are often not valued.

I have seen many a student fail in school despite endless parental support.

While the student who is a single parent, working evenings at two retail jobs, and taking care of aging parents earns academic honors.

Because finishing is seldom about brains.

And often about ambition.

And determination.

You gotta earn it.

It's a concept that sounds cliche.

But a concept I believe it to be true.

Because it applies to more than just marathon running and Principles of Accounting.


AMJ

Hitting the Wall

The marathon is 26.2 miles.

It is at mile 20 that the marathon becomes a different race.

It is the  physical and mental turning point--no BREAKING POINT--for many runners where exhaustion and self-doubt are at it's peak.

The point where where the athlete has to remind herself of the reason she STARTED the journey.

And remind herself of the reason to FINISH it.

This point in the marathon is known as hitting "the wall."

I think we experience "the wall" in nearly any endeavor.

Why should I continue with this difficult calculus class--or even continue with school?

Why should I continue with this business that is draining me mentally and financially?

Why should I keep working this second job to pay the mortgage when I am so exhausted?

It is at "the wall" where pure honesty occurs.

Honesty with ourselves.

The point where finishing what we started is predicated on coming up with a damn good reason to give more of ourselves when there is nothing left to give.

A big enough reason to help us dig really deep and find that reason that will transcend and carry us through the pain of those last few miles to victory.

This is not easy as I have seen many a runner hitch a ride home at mile 23.

But the experience of breaking through the wall ONCE provides us the strength to break through the wall AGAIN.

In running.

And in life.

I think Coach Vince Lombardi sums it up best:

"I firmly believe that any man's finest hour, the greatest fulfillment of all that he holds dear, is that moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle - victorious."

Couldn't have said it better.

AMJ  

Barnacles

When is it time to move on?

When is it time to move on from that project?

Or that job?

Or that exercise class?

Or even that relationship?

There are entire sections of bookstores that try and answer this question but I think the answer depends on an HONEST answer to two very specific questions:

1.  Am I still CONTRIBUTING in a meaningful way?
2.  Am I still RECEIVING in a meaningful way?

If the answer is "no" to both questions and every effort has been exhausted in trying to correct the situation, I think a course correction is the only solution.

We often stick with a job, a project, or even a diet or exercise plan out of COMFORT or GUILT.  It's part of our daily routine despite the fact that we stopped adding and receiving value months or even years ago.

Each morning we get out of bed, make the coffee and feed ourselves the same lie we fed ourselves last week...or last year about why we need to keep at it when deep down we know the real truth.

The real truth is we cling to the COMFORT ZONE OF ROUTINE more than we cling to the UN-COMFORTABLE ZONE OF MOVING FORWARD.

Human beings are meant to move forward--like a boat.

Human beings are not meant to be stagnant in the marina so to speak.  Just as a sailboat will collect barnacles and a rusty hull if left in the dock, so to will a human being atrophy and collect life's barnacles if not constantly challenged to contribute and press forward.

So I say we finally admit to the areas of our training and our lives that are collecting barnacles.

So we can clean them off and repair our hull.

To leave the marina.

And return to the sea.

AMJ